Funeral Director, Author, Speaker, Mother, Widow, Inspiration

You won’t find Dee Oliver sitting still for very long. The daughter of a career Naval Officer and an irrepressible mother, Dee was on the go most of her early life until the family settled in Virginia Beach, Virginia when Dee started high school. Dee is a talented artist in several media and with a degree in Art Education, was prepared to share her gift in the classroom. All of that changed in 1987 when she married John P. Oliver, or Johnnie to everyone who knew him.

Johnnie’s family has been in the funeral business since the Civil War and he was the 4th generation of his family to lead the business. It was only natural then, that Dee would become part of the family business, too. For 25 years, Dee and Johnnie worked together, raised three beautiful daughters, and helped countless people through the toughest moments of anyone’s life. But in 2007, Johnnie passed away unexpectedly and Dee realized very quickly that her life would be taking a new direction.

These days, you will find Dee involved in leadership positions with a number of community organizations. And, somehow, while being a single mom to her three girls, she also found time to complete her degree in Mortuary Science. Dee’s unparalleled experiences as a funeral director, mom, wife and widow provide a unique platform for her Going Out In Style series.

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Going Out in Style is is an engaging, entertaining and practical “how to” about the one thing in life that is absolutely certain.

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The Undertaker’s Wife

Part memoir, part how-to book, The Undertaker’s Wife offers insights on grief, survival, and the ever-present faithfulness of God. Sometimes poignant, sometimes laugh-out-loud funny, Dee’s story helps readers prepare for one of life’s only certainties–and do it with wisdom, grace, and a healthy dose of joy.


Here Comes the Bride!

  In The Undertaker’s Wife, there’s a chapter in which a woman – the “prophet in red stilettos” – shows up to attend a funeral and asks Dee Oliver (a.k.a. the undertaker’s wife who, by this time in the story, is the undertaker’s widow) if she is married. When she learns that Dee’s husband has passed, the woman doesn’t miss a beat. “You are going to get married again,” she proclaims. “The Lord has a husband for you. But you don’t need to go looking for him; he will find you.”
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